Serious Life Questions

NKOW ANIMA · Serious Life Questions

This topic is to discuss serious questions you have about life, of course, not mentioning any names when you're talking about people

Personally, I do have a Question.... well more I am looking for advice,

I have a great friend, well.... he used to be a great friend, now he's doing marijuana, and skipping school, which both I am strongly against. I know if I talk to him about it, he'll probably make a strange staement(last time it was "Marijuana isn't addictive")

personally, I don't really want to be his friend anymore, but at the same time, he used to be such a great friend....

Would someone PLEASE give me some advice

Edit: I have to be honest, the friend I am talking about is VVTV

gayteen

well this is a hard one. well that explains why he hasn't been online.

um well i'll try and help if i can. i'll need a bit of time to think about it but i'll tell you what i come up with on monday.

Aeris

I have never been good at giving advice but..

Perhaps you should try to have a talk with him, I know some people won't listen but you have to try and stop them from harming themselves. Obviously any type of drug is bad for you, marijuana can have some nasty side effects. I quite often don't have any sympathy for people who use drugs because they are the ones who put themselves in that situation, I do sometimes feel sorry for them but it's rare. Anyway, if he doesn't listen perhaps tell him that his bad behavior or reckless ways are stopping you from wanting to hang around with him or talking to him. He probably just needs to realize that what he is doing is wrong and that there can be some awful side effects from it in the long run.

His parents or guardians should talk to him about it as well, or have they already?

People do change though, some for the better and some for the worst. It's unfortunate that this has happened to your friend and hopefully he stops doing these drugs and such. I would seriously try talking it out with them as I have discussed but whether they listen or not, that's unknown. Good luck.

dimmufan

As a former user of marijuana I might be of some help to you.

Marijuana is addictive. Not physically addictive like nicotine or other drugs, but emotionally addictive. Tis still a tough habit to break mainly because 99% of users simply don't want to quit. They see nothing wrong with it. Most would even compare it to alcohol saying that it's not near as bad as alcohol. I think I would agree with that one, though.

Most users start using because they have something going on in their life that is stressing them out. They use weed as a means to escape. Some however use just to be getting high. You may have to talk to your friend to find out if there is anything wrong or if he's just a regular ol' party animal.

As for skipping school, well, that will eventually catch up with him. He's gonna either graduate late or not at all. You say that you are really good friends with him. If he's the kind of guy that respects your decisions then maybe sitting down with him and having a talk would be in both of your best interests. I would suggest sharing an activity whilst you talk. Maybe go bowling or something. Just let him know that you feel very strongly in what you believe.

Boco

Whoa... an ex-mod doing marijuana :x
Well, no matter how childish it might sound the best solution is to contact his parents/guardians. Seriously. If they are not willing to help him its a lost battle.
Plus, just as his friend you probably don't have much power over him, therefore you can't force him to stop it.
Good luck with it.

By the way, if he keeps doing that you might have to break your friendship bonds. The last thing you'd need is follow his example, which will most likely happen if he doesn't stop and you stay close to him.

dimmufan

People don't start using marijuana just because their friends do it. They try it because they are interested to find out what it is like. If they like it then they keep using. If DragonMaster doesn't want to even try using it then he can spend all the time he wants to with his friend without having to worry about getting addicted to it himself. Nikos, it sounds to me that you know nothing of drugs and how people get addicted.

Boco

That's totally right. I'm careful enough not to do anything stupid like drugs and I try to stay away from anything that has to do with them. On the other hand a close friend could actually pursuade you to do that. I know that from real life, even though I haven't actually tried it myself.

Aeris

What about peer pressure? A person can be pressured into doing those sorts of things, it's not always about interest. Well that's what I believe anyway, a lot of people give into peer pressure and regret it later on. I have heard about it many times before, it's not a good thing at all. I'm sure the right decision will be made though, you can either talk to them about it and say that you don't want to hang around with somebody who does that sort of stuff or hang around with that person but don't do any of the illicit activities they do.

I would probably have nothing to do with them if it was me but it's totally up to you. Since you have been friends for a while then you might want to try and help them but say you don't want to do any drugs and such.

celtic_silver

If the friend in question is one who keeps his/her word, you could always do what my mate did to me. Wait til he/she's well past it and then make them promise to give it up. You'll need to record it though as drugs/booze/pretty much everything messes with memory.

But does the weed really do that much to him? Most folks I know on it are fairly fine. Some get a little slower with the reaction times, or go quiet for some periods of time, but they still seem alright....

Zeratul

Well.. Marijuana is about as addictive as sugar.

They aren't pysically addictive like coccaine or even alcohol as dimmufan mentioned, Some people however will still find it addictive in their minds. I have a great number of friends who messed their lives over by not only smoking pot but also other stuff. If he is really your mate, talk to him about it, tell him that if he keeps on cutting class he will be a looser, big time. It's a demanding world out there with no room for drug addicts, trust me.

Smoking pot alone isn't as bad as other stuff to be honest, but when it messes up a person education or starts running or even ruining his life, it is a serious problem and he may need a "kick in the right direction".
He might react in a negative way but you should definatly tell him that he needs to think about his future, and really think about it. If he messes up now, he will feel the effect of this for the rest of his life.

And by the way, exusing potsmoking with "Marijuana is not addictive" is BS. For most people it's not addictive, no but it's not a damn excuse to keep on smoking it. How many times have I heard those word?

dimmufan

Right on man. People give in to peer pressure because they are weak willed and probably need marijuana to help them out with their life. Like I said, if somebody REALLY wants to not try it, then they won't. If a friend does not respect that decision then they aren't really a friend and you need to drop that loser like a bad habit.